Now that the school year is underway, your child may be adjusting well or still finding their rhythm. The first few weeks can bring a wave of emotions: excitement, tiredness, worry, or even resistance to going to school each morning. If your child is still having a tough time, don’t worry, many students take time to fully settle in. Here are some ways to help your child feel more confident and comfortable as they ease into their school routine.
Keep the Conversation Open
By now, your child has had a chance to settle into the school routine. That means their feelings might be a little more specific now than they were before school started. Try asking gentle, open-ended questions like, “What made you smile today?” or “Was there anything that felt a little hard?” There’s no need to push for answers, just letting them know you’re there to listen can go a long way.
Validate Their Feelings
It’s common for children to still feel uncertain a few weeks in, especially if they’re in a new school, grade, have a new teacher, or are missing last year’s routine. Let them know that it’s okay to have mixed feelings and that many other kids feel the same way. Sometimes just hearing “That makes sense” can be a huge comfort.
Stick to Routines
Predictable routines help children feel safe and secure, especially during times of change. Try to keep things consistent with wake-up times, after-school activities, and bedtime. Simple, relaxing moments, like reading together in the evening or sharing about your day, can make a big difference. A steady rhythm at home gives kids the space they need to recharge and feel more in control.
Celebrate the Small Wins
Has your child made a new friend? Learned how to open their lunch container on their own? These little milestones are worth celebrating! Even on tough days, reflecting on a small success can boost their confidence.
Model a Positive Attitude
Children take cues from us. Even if you’re feeling worried or frustrated, try to speak positively about school. You might say, “It sounds like today was tricky, but I’m proud of how you handled it,” or “Tomorrow is a fresh start.” Your calm, supportive presence helps them feel steady too.
Remember, adjusting to a new school year isn’t always instant, it’s a process. Some kids warm up right away, while others need more time. Keep showing up with patience, love, and encouragement. With your support, your child will find their stride and might even surprise you with how far they’ve come by the end of the month.
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